Jada Pinkett Smith has used her "open marriage" comment to spark a wider discussion about love and trust, which some folks might find controversial and thought provoking. Speak on it inside.....
For the past couple of years, Jada Pinkett Smith and her marriage to Will Smith has been scrutinized in the public eye and the media. Folks question how they've managed to make it in Hollywood for so long, if they're really happy or headed for divorce and if they are "allowed" to have extramaritial affairs. But out of everything associated with the couple, from hit movies to super-talented kids Jaden and Willow, it's the "open marriage" conversation which seem etched in the minds of fans and gossips.
On her Facebook page, Jada talked about the"open marriage" issue yet again, but decided to deconstruct her previous "Will can do whatever he wants" statement to ask her followers how they define love & trust within their own "grown" relationships.
Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not. I am addressing this issue because a very important subject has been born from discussions about my statement that may be worthy of addressing.
The statement I made in regard to, "Will can do whatever he wants," has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.
Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should "behave"? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of "you better act right or else" keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?
Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE...for us???
Here is how I will change my statement...Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship...this means we have a GROWN one.
Hmmm....Mrs. Smith sure said a mouthful. And from her statement, it's plain to see that she and Will are connected on a spiritual level that every person in general public may not grasp. But it sounds like she's saying you shouldn't have to TELL your partner what they can and can't do. If they love you the way you want to be loved, then they will do right.
But the real question here is, would she leave if Will really did what he wanted....and it was something she wasn't feeling?
What is a "grown" relationship for you?
SPEAK ON IT!