Lydia Meredith, former wife to Reverend Dennis A. Meredith, opens up about her husband leaving her for a man after 30 years of marriage. Get the details on why she stayed AFTER learning he was sleeping with men and more inside…
It's a straight-out-the-pulpit story of foolywang material!
Lydia Meredith was your typical First Lady of the church after marrying her husband Reverend Dennis A. Meredith 30 years ago. But things took a turn for the worst when she found out her husband was cheating on her. The thing is, her husband was cheating on her with men (she later learned women too), but even after learning about his infidelity she decided to stay. Yep, she said there was nothing in their marriage they couldn’t fix, but she soon learned the hard way that wasn’t true.
Now, Ms. Lydia is opening up about her husband’s scandalous ways in a personal memoir titled, "The Gay Preacher’s Wife: How My Gay Husband Deconstructed My Life and Reconstructed My Faith."
Below is an excerpt from the book:
I was one of those preachers’ wives who sat in the pew on many a Sunday morning while my “real” life was a fraud. i discovered several years into my marriage that my husband was cheating on me–with men–numerous men. (And women too, I later found out). But I stayed. I stayed through the broken promises and the humiliation because I believed and hoped that things got better. I watched my husband stand in that pulpit on Sunday morning, preaching one message and living out yet another. I needed answers.
The first place I turned to for answers were God. I prayed. I wept. I prayed. I wept. I prayed and I wept. God woke me at 3 a.m. I sat straight up in the middle of my bed. … What did Jesus really say about homosexuality? What was Jesus’ message about gays?
I prayed my entire young life for God to send me a husband–God Always answers my prayers–why did I end up marrying a gay man?
Lydia revealed her husband decided to leave her for another man. She knew he had slept with other men before, but they continued to stay together. Her husband ended up falling in love with one of the men he was cheating with and ultimately chose him over her.
“He left me for another man,” she told Rolling Out.“He told me he wanted to live the rest of his life as a gay man. At that time, I didn’t know he was in a relationship with a man, a man that he’d fallen in love with. Most of the time when we were in therapy discussing his struggles with same-sex relationships, it was never a relationship; it was always [just] sex. This particular time it was very different. He had fallen in love with a man.”
While she was presented with the news that her husband was in love with someone else, she still wanted it to work. He ended up leaving her in 2005 for his lover. By 2008, she had filed for divorce.
“I filed for divorce,” she said. “He wasn’t happy about it. The infidelity didn’t cause me to leave my marriage. I felt there was nothing in my marriage that couldn’t be fixed.”
Wow. It’s sad how some women will do anything to keep their marriage for image reasons or just to say they’re still married. But, we’re glad she found the strength to move and heal her heart. She has since founded Beacon of Hope, Inc. Renaissance Learning Center with a mission to strengthen families, communities and impoverished children and their families.
"The Gay Preacher’s Wife: How My Gay Husband Deconstructed My Life and Reconstructed My Faith" is on bookshelves and available to download online.
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